Aboutmonique aislabie

Lady Lou is one of Germany’s most well-known names in the current Burlesque scene, for she has been an integral part of Berlin’s Burlesque renaissance since 2008 and is known to some as the “Burlesque Mama of Berlin”.  After more than 10 years of performing, producing and teaching Burlesque to hundreds of students Lady Lou has chosen to specialize in helping women to be confident in expressing their sexuality and loving their bodies!

She has created her own brand called Bedroom Burlesque, which celebrates diversity in all body shapes and allows women to explore their sexy side without judgement or limitations.  As she knows from her own experience and life journey as a woman, a wife, an entrepreneur, and a mother, that having this kind of space can be an extremely uplifting form of self discovery and empower you in many other aspects of your life.


In a interview recently I was asked “Do you think Burlesque can have a negative effect because it puts women under even more pressure to be sexy?”. My answer…. I think there is a lot of pressure on women to be “sexy”. But only because we associate this word with women being objectified and images of unobtainable body shapes, of one very specific age and ethnicity group. If we think we don’t fit into this unrealistic idea of what “sexy” is supposed to look like then we have failed and therefore undesirable. THIS is what puts women under tremendous pressure.

That’s why I’m trying to create a space where women can start to see themselves as sexy no matter what their age or body size might be. In a safe environment that celebrates diversity and focuses on a body positive attitude, for this can be an extremely empowering form of self discovery.

The media, fashion industry, and society in general try to own and control your female sexuality. Well guess what ? I’m here to say …. NO they don’t ! Nobody does ! Not your parents, not your boyfriend, not your employer, not those men who leer at you on the street, and certainly not the mainstream media. Don’t give them that power. Your sexuality belongs to you and ONLY you. Don’t let anyone make you afraid or ashamed of it, love it, be proud of it, and express it in your own unique way. The balance between being strong and successful, but at the same time allowing yourself the space to get in touch with your femininity and female sexuality is the epitome of the powerful modern day woman!

Now imagine this: You lock the door to your bedroom, it is softly lite by candlelight, your favorite music is playing. You are wearing an exquisite Burlesque costume that makes you feel like a unique divine seductress.  Your now a beautiful luxurious gift that is about to be unwrapped!  You look in the mirror and love what you see so much you get turned on by your own reflection.  Your fantasies start running wild about the sexy things you would like to do next and guess what?… You have the power to make them happen.  Have fun and go for it!