I have decided to lean into the fear

Wow! I just got a message from a former Burlesque Graduate of mine that had to move back to her small town in America which is known to have strong religious and conservative values. She told me that she is about to reveal herself and give a talk at her co-working space (she works in…

I viewed my strength as a weakness

At high school the boys used to laugh at me and say I should have been a player on the All Black rugby team because I was so huge. As I walked passed they would make sounds of the earth cracking under my feet like a giant. Back then I viewed my strength as a…

What is MY favourite body part?

I haven’t written anything in a while and I feel like it’s time to get back on that keyboard and tap out some of the stuff that has been rattling around in my head. So here we goooo… During one of my Burlesque workshops recently there was a section where I ask my students to…

Goals for 2019- more dirty jokes and laughing till my belly hurts

My goals for 2019 – more dirty jokes and laughing till my belly hurts. Cherishing the people in my life who believe in me and allow me to just be myself. Knowing that I don’t have to be perfect, learning by making mistakes and learning by listening to others. Creating and love making Photo: Maren…

I am 40 years old, bisexual, married and a mother of two

I promised to do a photoshoot that has no beauty retouching on photoshop – I call it “pure beauty shoot”. The photos have only had the colour and contrast slightly adjusted. I also made a conscious effort to not hide behind my costuming. For example I would always wear high waisted panties to hide my…

I shoved his leg aside and sat down, my heart was racing

Taking up space… This morning I got onto the U5 and it was full. I spotted a free seat that was being partly taken up by a huge manspreading beer drinking biker dude in a leather jacket and sunglasses. My first reaction was to not go for the seat. But then I thought fuck him…

Free empowering flip book!

Here is the little Bedroom Burlesque flip book made with love by Lady Lou! Free for students that attend the Bedroom Burlesque Workshop. Inside are empowering quotes and phrases that she teaches in her workshop. So when you leave you can take these words with you. What is a Bedroom Burlesque Workshop?… It is a…

I buried the picture deep in my archives to be forgotten

Yesterday I came across this old photograph where I was posing for an artist that wanted to paint a portrait of me. When she first showed me this picture I was horrified at how fat and floppy my belly looked. Back then I would never have dreamed of sharing a picture like this on social…

being sexy is not defined by your dress or bra size

After working in the Burlesque industry for over 11 years I have discovered that…. just because a woman has what society tells us is a “perfect” body doesn’t necessarily mean she is going to be the sexiest performer of the night. Sometimes it can be the woman that you wouldn’t expect to be sexy that explodes…

Women CAN make the first move

Women CAN MAKE THE FIRST MOVE !!! Life is too short waiting for someone to come and choose you. If you want it, go out and get it.  I just had a student from my Bedroom Burlesque Workshop write to me and said last night she tried the flirting techniques I taught and it worked.  She…